If Only

If only she had been more meek

If only she had been more bold

If only her tactics had been this

If only her strategy had been that

If only she had changed the way she thinks

If only she had changed the way she feels

If only she had become a unicorn

If only she hadn’t been so cool and rational

If only she hadn’t been so passionate and hysterical

If only she had prayed more fervently to the Father

If only she had prayed more passionately to the Mother

If only she had been more of a sister

If only she had been less of a brother

If only she had listened to those people

If only she hadn’t listened to these people

If only she hadn’t asked

If only she had demanded

If only she hadn’t been so feminist

If only she had been feminist enough

If only she had been more faithful

If only she had seen Babylon in the temple

If only she had left long ago

If only she had stayed and kept silent

If only she hadn’t marched

If only she had knocked down the doors

If only she could have understood the perfect divinity of human leadership

If only she had seen the patriarchy for what it really is

If only she had seen how blessed and happy all women really are

If only she had understood how cursed and miserable all women really are

If only this

If only that

If only she had danced on the head of a gnat

If only she had been all things to all people–except this or that

 

 

Why the Church Is Not Mormonism

I recently re-read Eugene England’s phenomenal essay, Why the Church Is As True As the Gospel. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend you do so now. If you have read it, I urge you to read it again. There, England argues that the Church is necessary for us as a “school of love” by forcing us to interact with and serve those who are different from us, hold often widely different views, and who might cause us pain. (We, of course, can pose that same danger to others). This in particular has resonated with me at key moments over the years: Continue reading